Seeing at times is too challenging for many. In spite of being “connected” with many people via these, many singles still think it an almost impossible task to locate their loved ones, develop and maintain a good satisfying intimate relationship.
Self-Awareness might be the only road you haven’t taken to date in your attempts to find a spouse with whom to develop a thriving intimacy. Paradoxically enough, sometimes it is the only road which can have your there.
It is when you ask yourself these – and other – questions; when you check inwards and observe your self; and when you develop the Self-Awareness, that you can finally de-activate the power these factors have exerted upon you, and free yourself to re-think the way you approach partners and family relationships.
That they therefore resort to finding one and thousand excuses to make sure you justify their failures, in no way the least is: shortage of energy. Resorting to dating services is normally one way to not take guilt for their failed attempts. “Let someone else do the job”, they tell themselves, “Then it will not be my sole responsibility for yet another failed attempts. “
Subsequently, it makes no difference on how many dates they’re going and how many relationships that they attempt to develop: they get it wrong over and over again, for the simple purpose that they just never take the time to understand what they do which harms their attempts.
It happens to be as if meeting “the correct person” stays only a dream. Many singles vacation resort to hiring personal coaches, advisors or dating experts with the task of matching them with the “right” man, convincing themselves that they are just too busy to look, look and find.
Time and again I find out singles who, without possibly knowing it, shoot themselves in the foot in relationships. Being unaware of doing so, they just do not know what they need to change in order to succeed next time around.
But is it really so? Is it really a deficiency of time that inhibits them from finding the right person? Or simply could it be that even when that they meet a potential partner many singles just don’t know how to develop a healthy and successful relationship? Could it be oftentimes unaware of the many ways in which they sabotage their attempts in intimacy?
Taking responsibility for your success or catastrophe at relationships is a essential to making a significant change leading to success. It is only if you take responsibility and be truly motivated to understand, for good, what hinders your tries that you embark on the road to success.
May possibly these be unrealistic targets and fantasies about lovers and relationships which get you to expect the difficult (and blame your associates time and again)? May this be your perception of reality, being determined that “your way” from thinking, feeling and executing things is always “the correct way”, and your partner’s “the wrong way”?
Taking responsibility means: you decide, once and for all, to become concious of a host of factors that drive you to fail in the relationships. Could it be your thought patterns towards the other sex? May possibly these be your worries and needs which get you to behave in self-sabotaging ways? Could these get messages you internalized at a young age about how romantic relationships “should” look like – information which now, as an adult, come back to haunt you?